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Make No Assumptions

Doubtful Moment

He loves you therefore he should know just how you feel
Regarding any subject. He can’t read your mind
Nor can he know your feelings without your sharing
Them with him. Don’t assume that because he’s caring
He knows everything. Don’t be selfish and unkind.
Don’t put someone you say you love through this ordeal.

Have the courage to ask questions if you don’t know
What is happening. Don’t assume everybody
Thinks the same way that you do because most do not.
How you think about things doesn’t matter a lot
To most people unless you just happen to be
Someone popular with an enormous ego.

All sadness and drama are rooted in making
Assumptions and in taking things personally.
We knew nothing when we were born then we became
Inundated with facts with the primary aim
Of indoctrinating us to reality
As we know it. So much of it is heartbreaking.

Allow yourself to hear people. Be more present
In the moment. Don’t take things where they need not go.
The mind operates like an assuming machine.
It can put you unfortunately in between
A rock and a hard place and unable to grow.
Keep yourself away from such a predicament.

Every Relationship

Together

What if I’m strong and confident most of the time?
As a woman I have a hard time letting go
Of my nature when I’m in a relationship.
Past failures are the cause of my current guilt trip.
If I have to give up something how will I grow
As a person? Can I find a union sublime?

It would be such a blessing to find someone who
Can find value in the way I happen to be.
What I want is to not have to change or let go
Of some characteristics of mine. I don’t know
If I could trust myself with someone completely.
I need some kind of guidance on just what to do.

Trust yourself to be able to handle what you
Don’t control. Sometimes you make the right decision
And sometimes you have to make the decision right.
There will be days of darkness but most will be bright.
All will go as you wish if you can envision
Everything about your biggest dream coming true.

You trust other people to the extent that you
Trust yourself to be able to handle the flaws
Of others. You attract what you’re feeling inside.
Be aware of how you feel because it’s your guide
To fulfillment so you need not worry because
You have taken on a positive point of view.

Every Morning

Start Of The Day

Separate you are never from where you come from
Which is spirit. You always have that connection
And because you are a spiritual being
You’re aware that your spirit is overseeing
Everything that you’re doing. It overlooks none
Of your actions. To its nature you can succumb.

When you’re running with nature, your morning routine
Need not be all that structured. Your day can begin
As it does usually but being aware
Of the day’s doing is a different affair.
It’s like taking your brand new car out for a spin.
Consciously you’re creating your driving machine.

Ceremony and ritual help to create
Mindfulness. In silence you can do as you please.
Simple things that you do at the start of your day
Can be done with emotion. It will pave the way
To a day most fulfilling with relative ease.
Take the time you need to get yourself feeling great.

Like a life review when the soul leaves the body,
You can have your own day review as it begins.
You intend things to go well. You want to be kind
To yourself and all others. You want peace of mind
At the day’s end and just as this lovely earth spins
Perfectly in its orbit, yourself you must be.

Stop Trying To Read Other People’s Minds

Colorful Minds

Unless you’re truly psychic don’t take for granted
That what others are thinking are your thoughts as well.
Others don’t think the same way more often than not.
One who’s ill may believe there’s a sinister plot
To undo oneself and it’s the worst kind of hell
To go through. In the mind what’s not true is planted.

So I don’t make assumptions because it allows
Me to hear people, be more present, and not take
Things where they’re not supposed to go. I can be more
In the moment instead of in my head. Before
I jump to a conclusion, mostly for my sake,
To the purest of logic my heart must espouse.

All the sadness and drama that we manifest
In our lives is because of assumptions we’ve made
About others. We can’t read other people’s minds.
We come up with fantastic stories of all kinds
But they’re just that. We’re not on a foolish crusade
To gain knowledge of what people haven’t expressed.

We don’t have the courage to ask questions, so we
Make assumptions. We take things too personally.
We love people therefore we expect them to know
How we feel and think, so learning how to let go
Of our thoughts about it all is one way to free
Ourselves of our self-torment eventually.

Guidance And Satisfaction

Nurturing Nature

Adapt to your own guidance system and to the
Feeling of satisfaction. Identify and
Isolate what this thing that’s called satisfaction
Really feels like because you are the only one
Who can do that. Of your joy you have full command.
You can tell when you’re on or off track easily.

If you’re off track it may be because you’re under
The influence of others who try to convince
You that happiness is something hard to attain.
The world has its opinions but you must remain
Connected to your guidance. It’s been with you since
The beginning. It’s your best of friends, as it were.

Don’t listen to anything that’s contrary to
Satisfaction. Don’t let yourself get turned around
On your journey by something that doesn’t matter.
Negative emotion can cause dreams to shatter.
Satisfaction is subtle because when it’s found
You may not be aware that it’s happened to you.

When you’re on track you live up to the potential
Of that which you are. Nothing can stand in your way.
Your desire is important and satisfaction
Is the expressway to its manifestation.
The world is your oyster if you’re willing to pay
More attention to those things that are essential.

Thought Is Yours

Joyful Imagining

Everything that is in the universe vibrates.
The magic of your cell phone will demonstrate this.
Electrons move at light speed. With the naked eye,
You perceive things as solid and may not care why
Everything is in motion. You cannot dismiss
The reality of how the world operates.

At the atomic level, things are quite alive.
There’s a dance going on with everything you see.
There are things that exist that you cannot perceive,
But in high-definition signals you believe.
This is how you experience reality.
It is like data stored on you solid state drive.

Think of all your relationships. What constitutes
Your connection with all of them? It’s only thought.
Everything that has happened to you until now
Is through your mind. Does this knowledge raise an eyebrow?
It’s an amazing thing what your thinking has brought
To your present reality its attributes.

Thought Is Yours to do anything with that you please,
And when you use your thought in cooperation
With the laws of the universe, you will vibrate
To the tune of your calling, and you will create
A better world around you. Start having more fun.
Get accustomed to how your inner being sees.

Other People’s Minds

Minding Areas Of Avoidance

Other People’s Minds chatter and so does my own.
I cannot make assumptions about what goes on
In their heads. I cannot read Other People’s Minds.
I will only come up with mistruths of all kinds.
Then profusely misguided conclusions are drawn.
In a world of confusion I’ll find myself thrown.

In my head I am mostly. Drama I create.
Taking things where they should not go causes me grief.
I assume everybody thinks just as I do
Then end up traveling down the wrong avenue.
If I make no assumptions I will find relief
From the duty that carries emotional weight.

Do I make assumptions because I am afraid
To ask questions of others for more clarity?
Going deeper, I can find the place in between
 My thoughts and inner silence. All that must come clean
Will do so, then the right answer must come to me.
I can benefit from a no chatter crusade.

All the sadness and drama I experience
Is rooted in assuming or in my taking
Things personally. It is far better that I
Leave the unknown unfettered rather than to try
To construct my own story. That would be breaking
A spiritual rule and that of commonsense.

Unhurtable

Natural Defense

Say you’re looking at someone and don’t like what’s seen.
What is means is that your true self has not the same
Vision of that same person that your ego does.
Your feeling of disgust is most simply because
You are using that someone in essence to blame
For your lack of alignment, if we’re to come clean.

But what kind of relationship must be maintained
With a self so etheric and alien to
The self who’s most familiar to who you are?
Meditation can help. It is not that bizarre
That you draw what you focus on as we all do.
Be connected with your true self. There’s much to gain.

You could see other things when you look at this soul.
When these positive aspects are practiced by you
They will bring about changes in that person’s heart.
It would be but a pleasure to get a head start
On your quest of relating by attending to
The one you’ve with your true self. How’s that for a goal?

If someone cares to look at you in a bad way,
That one’s not connected to who they truly are.
Don’t be hurt by what others may think, say, or do.
That’s on them, and there’s no need for your feeling blue.
Your relationship with yourself carries you far
Through your world of relating each and every day.

Affirmative Empathy

Intimacy and Trust

Strong, long lasting relationships with care are made
Over time through commitment. Support for the one
Who is of most importance is taken to heart.
Their souls know not of loneliness. When they’re apart
They are linked by their spirits, and no work is done
To make psychic connection. They are their crusade.

 Similar to opponents, the roles that we choose
To uphold disagreement with passion are played.
We spend time to perfect the processes of war.
It would seem that the thrill of the fight we adore.
We are interlinked also by being afraid
Of the innocent contact because we may lose.

Where we place our attention is where we evolve
And take root in the ways that we all interact.
This life energy drama is taken for real.
How we are with all others affects how we feel.
Graciousness from the heart depends not upon tact.
All remain independent with not much to solve.

Loved ones, friends, and archenemies, and those unknown
Are the world’s population. We all know us all
On some level unseen and unknown as we’re here.
Can it be an adventure? Must it involve fear?
Nothing short of a world war can lead to our fall.
Is that something our dear mother earth would condone?

Matter Of Heart

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If I feel I’ve been cheated, I’m in a bad place.
Yet, that’s just what has happened. Should I go to war?
I’ve the right to seek justice for what has been done.
I can’t promise that I will not harm anyone.
In my blind, mindless rage I must even the score.
I’ll exact some remorse and do so with no grace.

As I replay this monologue, like déjà vu,
Can I see what is happening as a program
That I coded my damned self? The mechanics speak
Louder than any morals the pure heart may seek.
People do as they please, and they don’t give a damn
For the heart that is broken from lack of clear view.

Morals and life’s mechanics seem always at play.
What has broken is an understanding. That’s all.
People misunderstand things as par for the course.
I can learn to accept that or live with remorse.
Am I not a whole human? How then did I fall
For the myth that some other will brighten my day?

Creator and Creation – This relationship
Is the one most important. It is absolute!
Those with humans can’t be so. They’re subject to change.
I could hook up with dead folk, but that would be strange.
Should I thank the damned bastard and yield a salute,
Or just carry on smartly and not give a rip?

People are free to live life. I’m free to live mine.
It is then most acceptable that I find peace
In the knowing that in growing complete, I’ll be
Most attractive to those most in common with me.
There’s no such thing as cheating. There’s only release
From one’s own self-undoing. All is well and fine.

Secret Waters

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How does one stay committed? A most sacred bond
Can be broken too easily. Why is this so?
Is it that the integrity of humankind
Has been compromised somehow by our own design?
What’s the best course of action that one can follow?
When beset with hard choices, how best to respond?

Many kinds of integrity make what we are.
One is that of emotions – another, of thought.
But our physical integrity is the one
That can cause discontentment but also much fun.
It may be through our upbringing contact is sought
With too much desperation. Is this below par?

People of many cultures are casual with touch.
We need hugs when we’re babies – not as we evolve.
Children are of their mothers until about five.
Until then, they should be hugged so they best survive
The dilemma most face with no means to resolve.
Secret waters are salty and don’t resolve much.

Casual Relations

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Some unions lack emotion. Is that the complaint?
They’ve become somewhat casual and commonplace.
What are some to make of this? Is this it a new wave?
Things are more important than a marriage to save.
Yet, it’s all about memory. Our human race
Is a sponge-like existence immune to restraint.

There was once an old couple married fifty years.
The day after their celebration, they divorced.
Said the judge who was friends with them, “Why do this now?
You’ve had such a fine marriage. What’s happened somehow?”
“I went through some old photos, and then I was forced,”

Said one of them, “To hold back a torrent of tears.”

“My children don’t look like me. So, that’s the reason!”
Now, the judge, here, is anyone with common sense.
Some cultures aren’t so ‘touchy.’ They tend to know well
Memory that is tactile will act like a spell
That will then cast one’s life in a world of pretense.
It’s a question of sense, not of morals undone.