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Dealing With A Controlling Spouse

Following a long illness he decided to
Retire early. His spouse became the caretaker.
Which he appreciated, but lately she’s been
Obsessive about it. He does not like it when
She controls his activity. He would prefer
Less attention paid to him. What should the man do?

She believes she is doing the right thing, of course.
She refuses to listen to what others say.
Corrective meditation does him little good.
It is difficult when things are not understood
By them both, and they just cannot go on this way.
If continued it could even lead to divorce.

It was a good co-creative attraction in
That he needed some caretaking, and she was there
To provide it profusely. He doesn’t care for
What he’s attracted and cannot take any more
Of what he now considers her abusive care.
Communication is the best place to begin.

He could have some fun with this and make it a game,
Using words carefully so as not to offend.
“I needed some caretaking. You’re magnificent!
But I didn’t need meddling or constant torment.
You’re an awesome controller, but I am your friend.”

Understanding is needed or things stay the same.

The Sieves Of Judgement

Psychic Sifters of Truth

“There is someone among us who is unworthy,”
Said a young man to the old and wise Socrates.
“A disreputable person he is clearly.
When I tell you what he is doing you will see
That our group cannot tolerate folk such as these.
I’ve told you. You can take measures necessary.”

“Before I will do anything you must tell me
If what you say is true. Did you see it first hand?
Or is it only something that you overheard?”
Socrates asked the man who had only one word

Which was ‘No.’ “Then the sieve of truth it cannot stand,”
Said the wise one. “You may have to let this one be.”

“Will you tell me of something good or positive
About this man, or are you here to tell me things
About him that are nasty? If it’s the latter
Then it is best for you to ignore the matter.
The sieve of goodness cancels out your utterings.
Go about your own business and let the man live.”

 “What are you so excited about anyway?
Is it that necessary to come to tell me
Of this thing most upsetting?”
The man bowed in shame

And retracted his story which now seemed quite lame.
Before dispensing gossip will it pass freely
Through the three sieves of judgement? Take care what you say.